A few quotes have been heavy on my mind lately, ever since I saw one like them while surfing Pinterest. Here is the gist:

“Indecision is the thief of opportunity.”

“The biggest killer of dreams is indecision.”

I don’t know if I’ve every fully considered this. I’ve never really thought about how not doing anything is worse than the wrong decision. This is funny to me, because when it came to basketball, my parents always told me to “go down swinging” – in other words, you’d rather not play because you are doing something that ends up being wrong, rather than choosing to play it so safe that absolutely nothing gets accomplished and you don’t play anyways.

I’ll be honest, decisions are my worst enemy. I wait and wait and wait, as if one day I am going to wake up and just know the right thing to do. Who am I kidding? When does that ever happen? More often than not, I feel decisions end up being made for us, for lack of being able to ourselves. Or you(I) try to do a mixture of both things and then that ends up being so much worse.

I do not like choosing one thing over another. I want to have both things always – the best of both worlds. (If only we could all be Hannah Montana.)

The reason I have been thinking about this lately is in relation to goals and success.

I am at a point in my life where I have some decisions to make – where do I ultimately want to live? What job/jobs are going to bring me the most happiness? What other things in life bring me the most happiness? Do these things overlap? What am I/can I be successful at? How are success and happiness different? I know – these are all questions we ask ourselves regularly.

This has caused me to think about happy, successful people that I look up to. And, I’m starting to realize I’ve always thought that happy and successful people are those things because they always made the right decision. I envied them for the ability to choose and know something for certain.

And now, I’m starting to think they are happy and successful simply because they made a decision. At all. They didn’t know. But they made their best guess and they stepped two feet in and gave it their all. It wasn’t the “right” decision, it was just their decision. It was what they wanted and they made that work.

Imagine how this idea changes things for people wanting to achieve success and happiness. You don’t have to make the right decision, you just have to make a decision, and give it your heart.

Of course, there will be many views on this, and I am not saying this goes for every situation either. I do believe there are certain areas of life that will have a right or wrong decision.

But, for the season of life I am in, this thought has been helpful and hopeful.

I don’t know why I am surprised at this epiphany. I’ve done this very thing myself before – a story I will save for tomorrow. 🙂

love always, caitlin


5 thoughts on “decisions

  1. Caitlin, it is good to meet you at TWT. Decisions are important. Sometimes, they are the “thing” that holds me back.Other times, they are easily made. Today, I debated with myself on what type of plan I needed for a decision on how best to organize my mew kitchem.

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  2. Oh yeah. For me, it’s ‘imperfect action is better than perfect inaction’. I’ve learned to just do things and not put them off because I’m hoping for the ‘best’. Anyway, thanks for this post!

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  3. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on decisions. I am currently in a position where a decision has to be made and I am almost paralyzed by the fear of making the wrong one. But I agree with you that it isn’t so much a matte of right and wrong, it is about making the decision and giving it your all. Besides, if we don’t like the results of a decision made today, we can always make a different one tomorrow. Best of luck as you grapple with your decision making!

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  4. You don’t have to make the right decision, you just have to make a decision, and give it your heart–words to live by. It doesn’t make the decision-making any easier, but there is comfort in knowing you will live through it!

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  5. A thoughtful post – we can’t really know before hand if a decision is right or wrong. We do just need to make a choice and go forward. We may change our thinking later but then we will move on to something new. We learn from all decisions and can take value from each of them. So I don’t see decisions as right or wrong. They are just a choice for right now. Good Luck in your choices.

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